5 Ways to make Long Distance Relationships Work
How could a connection last without the physical touch,
without the comforting scent, and that warmest embrace?
Being in love is a physical feeling as much as it is an emotional one. There was research after research that supports this notion. “Falling in love” is not as simple as a phrase we hear over rom-coms and tacky chick-flicks. Physical companionship is a key component that makes up the dreamy serotonin rush of Love. However, there are these occasions, where two lovers are thousands of miles apart, how do couples keep this flame going? In a vacuum where physical touches are limited, can two souls still stay intertwined despite the long distance between them?
These are some tips and tricks from the internet, professionals and actual long-distance lovers that would shine a light down a dark tunnel of your heart.
1. Communications
We live in a fortunate generation, with the blessing of advanced technology. Your long-distance lover might be miles away, but they are indeed one call away. Utilize social media and communication applications, understand each other’s schedule, time differences, and proactively keep your other half updated on what is going on in your life, work, school, or even social circle. This could ensure the two of you could stay on the same page and feel like you are in each other’s lives
2. Understanding
There are different time differences depending on the locations you both are in. This is why understanding each other's schedule and understanding the situation your lover is in is important. As work or school schedule might not allow for timely replies, the same could happen to you too. It is important to respect each other for this to be sustainable communication and connection.
3. Transparency
“When my other half introduces me to their friends in office through a video chat or even mentions me at all, I feel acknowledged and reassured” - Nevill, 2 years into long distance relationship. As we know, letting your significant other be in your social circle is important and a healthy thing to do, despite it being a long-distance relationship. This is an effective way to show your commitment and maintain transparency between the two of you
4.Expectations
If this is a serious relationship, having common goals and expectations is of utmost importance and it will come naturally.
According to research of Superdrug Online Doctor, a major U.K. health service, around 70% of participants agree that lack of purpose is the number one reason long-distance relationships do not work. This is exactly why staying on the same page about where and when you could both meet is important. By having that goal to work towards and something to look forward to, the time you spent apart would be passing way quicker!
5. Token of Love
According to Dr. Carolina Pataky, sex therapist and founder of South Florida's Love Discovery Institute, “When we experience physical touch, we release certain hormones and neurotransmitters such as oxytocin, serotonin, and dopamine.” However, when such opportunities between two individuals are lacking, how should they make up for these literal chemistries that fuel this love?
Having a physical object that reminds you of the other person comes in handy in these cases! Your favorite stuffed toy you hold at night, a tee shirt that has the scent of your signature perfume, even a cushion that lingers with the smell of your freshly cleaned hair. Anything to hold on to, as a symbol or a token of holding your long-distance love close and reminding you of all the great moments, could make a stark difference in the biological release of these “cuddle hormones.”
At the end of the day, long distance relations might become easier due to the advance in technology. But it could still be a difficult challenge for all miles away lovers out there, that is why it requires effort from both sides. When the day you can reunite with this important person in your life comes, it will all be worth it.
Afterall when two hearts are close, there is no distance too long!